Your boyfriend has broken up with you and you’re asking yourself and anyone that will listen, “How can I get my ex boyfriend back?” You have tried just about everything imaginable and focused all of your attention on trying to figure him out and how you can get him back but nothing seems to work.
You have tried to get him back by being nice to him, giving him his space, trying to talk about the problems and come up with a solution in order to get him back but he’s not budging. You have promised him the world and maybe even cried a little bit hoping that he would change his mind but his heart is a stone and you are worried that you will never be able to get him back.
The problem that you are running into is based upon relationship dynamics and right now the dynamics and the power in your relationship is very lopsided. Chances are the power in your relationship has been teetering towards your ex having all the power for some time and now with the breakup your ex boyfriend holds all the power and all the cards.
Let me explain. In a normal, healthy relationship both partners value and care for each other equally. Both partners want “in” and have respect for each other’s feelings, wants, needs and desires. This is probably how your relationship was in the beginning although at times you probably had periods where your ex boyfriend wanted you perhaps a little bit more than you wanted him and vice versa. It is almost impossible to keep the dynamic and power completely equal and this is normal in a relationship.
Something happened though and somehow things got out of whack. It could have been a single incident that causes this power shift or it could have been a slow change that has brought you to where you are today…you want your ex boyfriend but he doesn’t want you any more.
The truth is that he does still want you. It is the relationship dynamics that are messed up and the brutal truth is that everything that you have been doing to try to get him back is only making it worse. Every time you call him, text him, tell him that you still love him or make it known that you want to get back together with him is making it worse.
So, you understand now but your question is still unanswered and you still need to know, “How do I get my ex boyfriend back?” Well, the first step is to recognize the things that you are doing to make matters worse and promise yourself that you will refrain from exhibiting behaviors that are going to drive him even further away. Stop calling him, stop texting him and stop asking to meet with him so you can talk. All of these behaviors only make you appear weak and needy and boost his ego even further, which really could push him into the arms of another woman…but let’s not think about that right now.
The best thing that you can do is get control over your emotions and make a pact with yourself that you are only going to do those things that will lead to getting your ex boyfriend back. Only once you have allowed the dynamics of your relationship to even out and your boyfriend begins to feel attraction for you will you be successful in getting him back.
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