Still In Love With Your Ex Boyfriend But Hate His Guts?

Are you still in love with your ex boyfriend but you are so angry about your breakup that you could scream? Or do you wind up screaming at him anyhow even though you know that it’s not helping you to get him back? Are you frustrated with him and wish you knew what to do to make him fall in love with you again?
The Cycle – Your emotions and your reaction to your breakup and your ex boyfriend’s attitude these days is perfectly normal. You know that the guy you fell in love with is inside there somewhere but these days no matter what you say or do he twists things around and emotionally you just don’t know how much more of this you can take. You have tried being nice but he’s just a jerk to you. You get angry and say things that you don’t mean and things wind up worse than they were before. What might have started off as a nice conversation turns into a screaming match or you grow so frustrated that you can feel your head spinning. How does this happen? Why does this happen every time you talk to him?
There is a pretty good chance that your ex is doing all these things on purpose. After all, if you yell, scream and curse at him he can feel justified in breaking up with you. He can tell all his friends what you said to him and they will all agree with him that you’re nuts and that he was right in breaking up with you. Right now he is in control of your relationship or the lack of a relationship and he knows what buttons to push to get you upset. He knows what to say and what to do to make you go crazy. You are on the offense all the time defending yourself and explaining yourself and how he is misunderstanding things that you said or did. The truth is that until you get on the offense and put him on the defense you will never be able to get him back.
Defense What? – By putting him on the defense I do not mean arguing back with him or twisting his words around so he feels the need to explain his words or his actions. Right now your ex doesn’t want anything to do with you or your relationship. He is just making it easy on himself and justifying the breakup in his own mind and for those around him. He wants to prove that he was right in breaking up with you. But if you could bring those emotions of love, dedication, devotion, passion and desire out in him again then you would have something to work with. Then you would be the one with the power in the relationship and he would be the one explaining his actions, words and ultimately his reason for breaking up with you. He would be the one trying to convince you to give your relationship another chance.
Sounds easy enough, right? But how can you draw those emotions out of him? How can you make him the guy that fell in love with you again? Well, I can tell you how not to do that and you probably already know the answer to this questions. You need to stop fighting so hard for the relationship. You need to stop pushing for explainations and trying to make him see that you love him and that together you were a wonderful couple. By pushing him and trying to fix the relationship you are not respecting his decision. You aren’t acting in a loving way and wanting what will ultimately make him happy even if that means not being his girlfriend. And there’s a clue… you’re not making him happy by constantly wanting to talk about the relationship and focusing on the breakup.
Chances are you didn’t talk about such negative topics when you were first dating. Of course not! There was nothing to fight about, you might say. You were happy and he was happy and he was chasing after you and you were playing cat and mouse with him a little bit. Weren’t you? Are you happy these days when you talk to him or see him? Is the focus of your life and your thoughts on the breakup and all the horrible things that you both said and did to each other? As long as you are focusing on the negative your relationship will always be filled with arguements and conflict and you will never get him back.
In spite of what therapists and counselors say, it is not necessary or even theraputic to talk about the garbage that happened between the two of you in order for you to get back together. It is not important or necessary for you to work through your problems or convince your ex of anything to get him back. Without desire and passion for you and your relationship, talking about the bad stuff is only going to make things worse. Instead focus on the happy memories and the good times that you had together. When you feel the blood boiling in your veins and you want to shout or lash out at him, remember that you are not helping things and instead end the conversation quietly while you think about a time when he told you that he loved you. Feel the love that was once there and get a grip on your emotions before you do more harm than good in your quest to get him back.
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